We came across this great article written by Karen Whiteside in the Friends of Hospice Ottawa’s newsletter, LifeLines. It has been reprinted with permission.
Being a volunteer in our society is an important and vital position to hold. I have been a volunteer most of my adult life – lending support in politics, women’s shelters, school programs and in business associations.
Now I am a one year graduate of the Friends of Hospice Ottawa Palliative Care Volunteer Visiting Training Program. By January 2010, I was driving clients to and from their medical appointments. During the past few years I have lost two of my sisters as well as my parents – and that truly has left me with a very big void in my life. I enjoy my volunteer work with Friends of Hospice Ottawa: in some ways it helps to fill that void.
Last March I met my first in-home client. I remember parking at the end of her street because I was 20 minutes early. I was nervous, and wondered who and how she was and what we would do! Our Hospice nurse, Holly, had met with her and told me a bit about her. It was agreed that I would visit with her for 4 hours each week.
I sat in my car and tried to remember all the important details I had learned during my training. I reminded myself that I was there to be supportive, helpful and non-judgmental. I was to offer empathy, but not sympathy, and glad that I remembered the difference! I was pretty sure that I understood my role as a volunteer, but I was meeting someone new so I was naturally a little apprehensive.
I rang the doorbell right on time and was met at the door by both husband and client. We three had coffee together and then my new client and I began doing the chores she wanted done. My first impressions were of a bright, intelligent, articulate lady used to a busy life of work, writing, gardening and travelling! I was amazed at how quickly the time went by. Much later she told me how apprehensive she was about allowing me, her in-home supporter, into her life. She told me she almost telephoned the office to cancel my next visit!
We quickly realized that one 4 hour visit each week was not the best fit, so we began to meet twice a week for two hours. Our visits were unstructured – sometimes we went out for lunch, sometimes we just stayed in and visited, depending on how she was feeling. I truly enjoyed her company and was quickly realizing that although I was there for her, I was learning a lot about myself. This was her journey and I listened and learned. During our 6 months together, she maneuvered through surgeries and treatments, discomfort and pain with grace and strength. I feel privileged to be a witness to the progress she has made.
My client and I often comment on how well we were matched – a difficult feat accomplished by Holly. Matching a client with a volunteer is critical in providing a successful opportunity to enjoy life! I am honoured to be the one who has accompanied her on her journey.
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